Updated: February 2026

Outline of me:

• Age: 36
• Dating: I am mostly into men, sometimes into women. Ages probably between 35 and 45.
  • (A metaphor in relation to the binary use of pronouns above: Apply for the job you want, even if the JD doesn’t fit 100%.)
• Desired location of residence: SF Bay Area, likely Oakland / Berkeley / Emeryville, California, USA. Although I’ve been nomadic and want my future kids to experience a variety of cultures.
• Desired relationship structure:
  • if aiming for dating, romance, love, and making babies together → I’d be open to the following formats of steady love:
    • monogamish
    • a poly/alternative situation in which I’m a primary/anchor partner.
      • What I’m really aiming for here is that my main attachment person defaults to me, and I default to them, in boredom and in hard times, etc. Ideally I’d like to live together (be nesting partners).
  • if aiming only for co-parenting →
    • this can get creative. Sperm donation with a known donor, or platonic co-parenting with a different sperm donor, or…. you let me know what you’re thinking.
• Verbal languages I speak: English, and enough Spanish to travel but not be considered fluent
• Culture I was raised in: A white, engineering family, in Silicon Valley.
• Cultural exposure by immersion: I’ve lived in 6 US cities, and have traveled to 12 countries
• Current family size:
  • I am an only child
  • I am a future mama (not there yet)
  • Building a chosen family of beloved and reliable friends (#livenearfriends, etc.)
• Height: 5 ft 9 in
• Work: Had 5 careers, mostly self-taught
  • Current career: (since 2015) Design leader and content creator, business design consultant and entrepreneur

Psychographics:

• Ambivert
• Autism (level 1)
  • Diagnosed in early 2025, so I’m actively learning about this and observing myself through this new lens.
  • I consider this as a superpower.
    • Basically, I am not able to feel at peace by assuming things about how the world works. I’ve had to actively learn about why we humans do the strange things we do. Fortunately for you, at this point I’ve learned quite a lot. I feel pretty calm and centered about how to be the always evolving human that I am.
    • If you like pondering things, and if that pondering often feels playful and helps you connect to yourself, we will probably get along.
• Generally a positive person
• Playful, when feeling safe
• Highly curious